Hello Awesome Parents!
Why would I call you that when you're here needing help with parenting? That's EXACTLY why…because you are here looking for solutions. You are here trying to find ways to connect with your child again. You are here because you want to learn how to be a better parent to either your child or your step-child and if that's not an awesome parent, I don't know what is!
Parenting effectively:
I have discovered how to parent effectively my 12-year-old granddaughter, after ineffectively parenting my two children who are now adults, (a little late I know, but I'm an awesome Mimi!) I am not perfect and I don't pretend to be, but I have learned the value of raising a son or daughter of integrity and honor. I've also learned the value in:
- Praising a child OF ANY AGE
- Speaking words of encouragement over children
- Staying calm when your child is angry or defensive
- Talking to children in ways they can actually hear you
- Correcting them with punishments that teach (PPT) children to identify why their behavior was not "ok"
- Helping parents discipline their children without shaming them so that parents can help build their children's self-worth and character.
Most "ineffective" parenting is really just missed opportunities and "effective" parenting has a lot of successful interactions. I will help you learn how to identify missed opportunities, which, with practice, will lead to you having more successful interactions in the future. Examples from my own experiences and experiences from others I have helped over the years will be given. Most importantly, I will help you to raise young men and women of integrity and honor.
Who am I to tell you how to parent…
I am Raynee Gloden and I am a licensed professional counselor (LPC). I'm 47, and a proud mother of two adult children ages 25 and 29 and the grandmother of six with the seventh grandbaby on the way. My husband and I gave up the big house with the garage in order to live close to our grandbabies.
How close you ask….well three of my grandbabies live in the apartment above us with my son and daughter-in-law, three (including the bun still in the oven) live in the apartment across from us with my daughter, and our 12-year-old granddaughter lives with my husband and I and has for the past three years, yep… THAT close!
My 2nd Chance:
Parenting our oldest granddaughter gives me a second chance to be the parent I wish I had been to my children. The reason I’m such a great Mimi is mostly because…. I messed up a lot with my children! I didn’t know that praise is one of the best behavior modification techniques a parent can use to change behavior. I always thought yelling, cussing, and threatening to remove privileges was how you got kids to listen, to know you were really serious. Turns out, speaking positive words over children is the best way to shape or change behavior.
It's never too late
Fortunately, it’s never too late to alter parenting styles and strengthen relationships, even with children who have moved out on their own. One has to have a great relationship with adult children if they are going to live under and across from them!
( I really want you to know that my children are productive members of society, and believe they had a great mom growing up. This is probably due to the face that I was an affectionate mom and always said "I love you" to my children. So glad I got that part right 🙂
About Raynee
I have a Master’s degree in counseling and over twenty years of experience working with families, teens, toddlers, and children. My goal is and always will be keeping families together no matter what the situation i.e. divorce doesn’t have to mean division if you learn how to co-parent effectively.
If you are a perfect parent, this site is not for you as I created it to help parents who realize there are things they can improve upon in their parenting. It takes a lot of courage to look for help with parenting, I commend you for doing so and humbly say “No need to look any further, you’ve found what you were looking for.”
This site:
This site is about 2nd chances. Second chances to parent differently, second chances to lose weight, second chances for relationships, for addictions, for marriages, and for any other situation live throws at you that may require a second chance. I don't know about you, but I rarely get things right the first try! I will invite others to write about their 2nd chances and how they made it through tough situations so that you can see, you too can make it through if you will just give yourself… a 2nd chance. Let's get started!
Proof that I'm legit:
